It is normal for teens to have curiosity about sex. However, sometimes parents do not know how to handle such situation. You may aware of their sources of information, such as magazines and books, television programs, movies or the Internet. It is easier to start conversation when you have these understanding. Parents should try to listen and understand teens’ views on sex, and provide guidance if necessary.

How to say “No” to something you don’t want

Level 1: less intimate, less impulsive – minimize physical contact

Reason: avoid over-intimated behavior (such as kissing, hugging, caressing, etc.). Teens may be aroused but lack of self-control which may intensify their intimacy level.

Main focus Clarify their misunderstanding and doubts on sex and puberty. You can share your youth experience
Tell your teens how they can get correct information about sex, such as the appropriate publications, web sites. Let them understand how they can control their impulse

Level 2: setting boundaries

Reasons: we have different attitudes and feelings on physical intimacy.

Main focus Love and sex require mutual care, consent and dedication. Educate your teens that no one can force you to do anything you are not willing nor ready to do. If you do not want to have sex, do let your partner know. Remember to use a caring and patient tone and be sure you do not leave your partner confused or embarrassed
Advice teens to set their own boundaries with their partners. They can provide gentle reminder if their partners have crossed the boundaries

Level 3: control you sex impulse

Reason: Sex drive is natural and normal physiological responses. Teens may be aroused by stimulus, such as the sex scenes in movies, sexual fantasies, touching of sex organs.

Main focus

Explain to teens the sources of sexual impulses and the effective as well as appropriate ways to avoid or release it
Think about the consequences before having sex. Teach methods of having safe sex 
Remind teens to seek help from parents, teachers or professionals if having doubts